Eye Gazing Parties: Are They for You?

Do you like parties?  What kind of parties is your favourite?  Or are Eye Gazing Parties your favourite?  Or have you never ever heard of them?

 

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/764693/eye_gazing_parties_are_they_for_you.html

By Lauren Romano, published May 19, 2008

I’m all for staring into the eyes of someone you love. Sharing that gaze can make wonderful feelings run through you. However, this gaze is not usually meant to last very long. What about if you were doing this with a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable staring into the eyes of a stranger for two minutes without saying a word?

This staring happens for singles at Eye Gazing Parties. For an allotted amount of time, singles gaze into each others eyes without saying a word while music plays in the background. Each session usually lasts about two to three minutes per pair. After the staring portion is over, you can talk to the person who got your attention. Just imagine it like speed dating without the talking.

A man named Michael Ellsberg started this interesting dating party in New York. After studying dance, he realized that the importance of eye contact on the dance floor can also be used for dating. The Eye Gazing Parties are meant to be fun, interesting and intense. Whether or not it’s something you would be interested in is another story.

I remember playing the staring game as a child. It’s the game where you and your friend sit across from each other and stare into each other’s eyes until someone blinks. I always lost at this game. I would always start to laugh in less then a minute or I would get bored and lose interest and just blink. If I were single, I wouldn’t consider doing this. I would burst out in a fit of laughter seconds into it. Either that or I would be incredibly creeped out.

Everyone has been on the singles scene at one point or another. The first time you meet someone is usually included with questions of “Where do you work?”, “Where do you live?”, and “Where are you from?” which are questions that, while important, aren’t going to usually trigger that earth shattering connection. Singles get tired after awhile of hearing the same starting conversations over and over again just with different people.

I’m all for staring into the eyes of someone you love. Sharing that gaze can make wonderful feelings run through you. However, this gaze is not usually meant to last very long. What about if you were doing this with a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable staring into the eyes of a stranger for two minutes without saying a word?

This staring happens for singles at Eye Gazing Parties. For an allotted amount of time, singles gaze into each others eyes without saying a word while music plays in the background. Each session usually lasts about two to three minutes per pair. After the staring portion is over, you can talk to the person who got your attention. Just imagine it like speed dating without the talking.

A man named Michael Ellsberg started this interesting dating party in New York. After studying dance, he realized that the importance of eye contact on the dance floor can also be used for dating. The Eye Gazing Parties are meant to be fun, interesting and intense. Whether or not it’s something you would be interested in is another story.

I remember playing the staring game as a child. It’s the game where you and your friend sit across from each other and stare into each other’s eyes until someone blinks. I always lost at this game. I would always start to laugh in less then a minute or I would get bored and lose interest and just blink. If I were single, I wouldn’t consider doing this. I would burst out in a fit of laughter seconds into it. Either that or I would be incredibly creeped out.

Everyone has been on the singles scene at one point or another. The first time you meet someone is usually included with questions of “Where do you work?”, “Where do you live?”, and “Where are you from?” which are questions that, while important, aren’t going to usually trigger that earth shattering connection. Singles get tired after awhile of hearing the same starting conversations over and over again just with different people.

 

Eye Gazing – I think it is …

Different peole have different points of view towars Eye Gazing.  Some think it’s the way to get to know people.  Some think it’s weird.  Some think it’s one kind of sharings sincerely and honestly.  Some think it’s uncomfortable.  Some think it’s a matter of self confidence.  And how about yours?

 Personall, when I first heard of it, I thougt it’s weird.  However, when I think about it, it’s not bad.  As I really love sitting at the cafe, kinda reading or kinda doing nothing.  Even though I may have my favorite book in hands, I still like to look around to see what other people are doing.  And in a cafe, you can see alot, a lot indeed!  Some couples come and share the cheesecake together, looking at each other sweetly, but not really chatting much.  Some, I guess they are just friends, come and just have a coffee, and just sit there, talk and talk and talk non stop.  Some come by themselves, sitting there reading a newspaper or working on something with their laptop. 

Somehow I find the lovers usually speak less than the others.  They do enjoy looking at each other. 

Talking about myself, I do find it’s true.  When one’s in love, what can be more precious than looking at the apple in their eyes?  Just by looking at him/her, you can feel that he/she is talking to you in a silent way.  In a way that no one else can interrupt.  It’s a world just contain you two. 

When you look at someone quietly into their eyes, perhaps you can explore more than when you two are talking.  Eyes, some call them the windows of the soul, perhaps can really reveal you the secret side of that person.  I guess, it just depends on if you are skilfull enough to open the windows even when you’re given the chance.

One may think it’s weird or it’s comfortable for them to do it.  However, I do agree it’s a matter of self confidence and a sincere and honest approach.  Words can be deceitful.  Sweet talks are always pleased to hear, but they are not always true to know.  Words can blink one’s eyes and heart, but eyes cannot.  Eyes may not always tell you things, but at least they can’t tell lies as the lips do.  They are silent, but honset.

So, do you dare to stare? 

Need a date? Try an Eye Gazing Party

If talking to strangers is hard, do you think staring at them is even harder?  How can eye gazing help you make some new friends?

 

http://seattlepi.nwsource.com/lifestyle/253273_eyedate.html

Tuesday, December 27, 2005

Need a date? Try an Eye Gazing Party

By BEN GRABOW
SCRIPPS HOWARD NEWS SERVICE

Need a date to ring in 2006? Maybe you should try staring somebody down.

It already has started in New York City and it should be in your hometown, well, any year now: It’s called an “Eye Gazing Party,” and it’s so strange that it just may work.

Here’s how it goes: A group of 30 young urban professionals gets together in a bar. Rather than drink and talk and go home with each other after multiple beers and ethical compromises, they are grouped together in twos. Each couple then looks into each other’s eyes for three full minutes. Blinking is allowed.

Once the three minutes are up, partners are switched until each guy has had the pleasure of staring down each girl in the room, and vice versa. After the staring has ended, participants move on to another room where they can chat up the people they’ve been ogling all evening.

This is a much-needed break for people who are tired of hitting the same bars and telling the same mostly untrue life stories to the same uninterested people. This is a chance to express something on a higher level than asking, “Where do you live?” and “What do you do?.” This is something I knew I would have to try.

Unfortunately, I don’t have a group of 30 young urban professionals at hand. So, being an industrious journalist, I worked with what was available. And being a miserably domesticated shell of what used to be a man, I decided to stare down the cat.

Once the cat realized there was no food involved, our session was basically over. It looked as though I was going to have to find a more captive audience. And as there’s only one floor to this apartment, my girlfriend had nowhere to hide.

After explaining the premise (and promising a foot rub if she would cooperate), we sat opposite each other and started the timer. Two seconds in, it became immediately obvious that this is very, very difficult to do with a straight face, though ultimately, that’s pretty much the point.

Essentially, you begin to have an unspoken conversation with your eyes. Ours went something like this:

(Smiling) “He’s probably waiting for me to blink.”

(Also smiling) “You are totally going to blink.”

(Quizzical) “What are you thinking?”

(Triumphant) “Ha! You blinked.”

(Accusatory) “Did you just glance at the refrigerator?”

(Curious) “I wonder how much beer is left.”

(Interested) “This is actually kind of sexy.”

(Humming) “… cold-hearted snake, look into my eyes — uh oh, you been tellin’ lies …”

In the end, it’s no less a gimmick than speed-dating or singles-only Tupperware parties. But what these eye-gazings have going for them is the type of people they attract — namely, people with the guts to let other people stare at them for three minutes regardless of the possibility that this other person could burst into spasms of uncontrollable laughter after 15 seconds.

As anyone who has witnessed a skilled Tupperware presentation will tell you, confidence is sexy. So any dating situation that even suggests your confidence most likely will work in your favor. And conversely, hanging out in the corner sipping your beer is unlikely to get you anywhere.

Do we truly need 45 minutes of opposite-sex staring to prove this to ourselves? Probably not. But the opportunity to stare at 15 pretty women without the risk of a visit from the local police is an opportunity that should not be dismissed.

Just make sure the objects of your ogling know the situation. Because prison is no place to spend the new year.

Eye-gazing parties catch on in Bay Area

Some people find “eye gazing” weird or impolite.  or some may not even like to keep eye contact while talking to people.  Then, why recently have more and more people joined the eye gazing parties? 

 

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2007/10/28/LVVASUTQ8.DTL

Lisa Hix, Special to The Chronicle

Sunday, October 28, 2007

For New Yorkers who famously avoid eye contact, it seemed like a radical notion to get a group of strangers to look into each other’s eyes without speaking, back when the first “eye-gazing parties” were held there in 2005. But when a bunch of Burners, yogis and tantric sex practitioners attended San Francisco’s first-ever eye-gazing event last week, it was embraced as a perfectly insightful evolution of the dating scene.

Eye gazing resembles speed dating, where participants hold brief conversations with dozens of potential mates. Except at these parties, the would-be daters aren’t allowed to speak. Single men and women sit across from each other and for two minutes gaze – not stare – into each other’s eyes.

Michael Vav, a life coach who’s done these sorts of events before, admitted, “It’s heavy. If I want to hide something, it’s hard. I can’t hide; I can’t embellish.”

The evening began at the Tantric Temple, a name given to the ground-floor event space of a Potrero Hill townhouse, with the room full of attractive people, mostly in their 20s and 30s, sipping wine and mingling to salsa music in the nearly empty room covered in Indian blankets.

Emily Grey, who works at a tech company, confessed to being a bit nervous. “A lot can be revealed in people’s gazes, like insecurities,” she said. “All these things can become magnified and more intense. But I want to try it. I think it’s an interesting way to interact with people socially.”

Before long, the group was instructed to sit on the floor in two rows, men on one side and women on the other. Host Michael Ellsberg gave instructions on eye gazing, explaining that staring is seen as too angry or aggressive, and encouraged people to try for a soft, blank expression. “And if you try to gaze into both your partner’s eyes, you’ll go cross-eyed. So pick one eye to gaze into.”

Touching is not allowed, and the women were asked to close their eyes between each session, so that when they opened them again, a new man would be sitting across from them. The music changed with each interlude, varying between upbeat Caribbean tunes to romantic, Latin-influenced jazz. Pupils dilated. Silent sighs were detected. Eyebrows were raised and lips parted. Sexual attraction was palpable.

“It’s like you get this whole story about who is this person,” Ellsberg said. “And then they find out afterward how well talking to them and who they are in that context matches up with the story they built in their mind.”

Ellsberg, a book editor who was raised in Berkeley, started the New York parties two years ago because he was fed up with the same old bar-conversation starters: “What do you do? Where are you from? What neighborhood do you live in?”

“It’s not even like I’m protective of that information,” said Ellsberg, who has spent many years salsa dancing, where he learned the importance of eye contact. “It’s all obviously something you would want to know about someone if you were going to connect with them more. But my sense was there was a way people were using that kind of talk to avoid connecting entirely. It’s just like two people yapping at each other and nothing was really getting in.”

After the New York eye-gazing parties had some buzz, Ellsberg left them in the hands of a friend and traveled around the world. This summer, he got an e-mail from Destin Gerek, a San Francisco sex educator who maintains a Web site promoting himself as an “Erotic Rockstar,” asking for permission to throw such a party here.

When Ellsberg realized that the Bay Area was where he wanted to be, he offered to work with Gerek to organize these events. He found that the attendees in San Francisco were far more receptive to the concept than New Yorkers, who were more suspicious of the process, giggling more and, in the end, finding the parties more of an excuse to hook up casually.

Here, where most of the attendees discovered the party through the Life as Art invitation-only Yahoo group, which involves several hundred Burners, there was hardly any wariness. Paul McKim explained his open-mindedness to the concepts by saying he was involved with the Authentic Man Program

James MacEwen, who seemed to be one of the experts in the room, said that he did eye-gazing exercises “all the time” as part of his involvement with the Human Awareness Institute.

Most people, like MacEwen, said they could tell who was “open” and who was “closed.” In this crowd, the right choice was to be “open” and vulnerable, outgoing and “naked”; having your defenses up or protecting yourself was seen as an obstacle to true connection or to your true self. Some participants, McEwen said, were more playful and relaxed than others.

During the break, Grey theorized that women probably have more defenses up against the concept of gazing, as they’re more likely to have experienced the gaze in a negative way, having been leered at or objectified.

Ellsberg said he hopes to defuse some of those kinds of feelings but that the purpose of the peering is really more straightforward.

“The way I think about eye gazing is actually less deep than one might think,” Ellsberg said, who wore a suit, flashy red tie and a fedora with a checkered band to the event. “I kind of just think of it as a really good icebreaker. Like, pretty much the best icebreaker I’ve ever encountered. Some people ask me, ‘Can you determine if you love someone by just looking in their eyes?’ I’m like, ‘No, you can’t.’ I would be freaked out if someone loved me based on no words and just looking me in the eyes. For more, the real juice of the party is the mingling after all the eye gazing.”

Afterward, as the couples sought out those with whom they wanted to follow their visual conversation with a verbal one, Ells-berg said he was delighted with the connections he saw being made around him.

“I would love to hear, get a call or an e-mail, saying, ‘I just met my match, we’re in this beautiful relationship,’ ” he said. “That was my intention starting out, but I realized the partygoers themselves had very different intentions. I’ve accepted that people are approaching it in a more casual, fun way.”

This article appeared on page E – 1 of the San Francisco Chronicle

 

The Eyes Have It – CBC News

Here we have Gina Pace sharing with us her experience of Eye Gazing Parties.

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2005/12/11/entertainment/main1115920.shtml

The Eyes Have It

Eye Gazing Parties Newest Way To Meet Singles In New York

NEW YORK CITY, Dec. 12, 2005

(CBS) CBSNews.com’s Gina Pace reports on a new singles dating idea in New York City. As she reports, it’s all in the eyes.

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There are hundreds of bars packed with singles trying to chat up potential mates in New York City. Recently, in a East Village bar, 32 strangers stared silently into each others eyes.

They were trying to prove grandma’s old adage: when you lock eyes, you’ll know.

I, however, found it disconcerting. I had never looked at this man before in my life. As I sat gazing into his eyes, I could only rely on the slightest facial expression or shift in body language to gauge what he was thinking. Did that slight smile that flashed across his face mean he is interested? He’s fidgeting – does that mean he’s nervous? Could he tell I had a boyfriend?

Looking across the candlelit table in the warm, red room with a painting of nudes drinking wine behind us, I wondered why he came here tonight. What was he looking for?

I won’t ever know, because I never said a word to him. I saw him at an “Eye Gazing Party,” the newest option for New Yorkers hoping to find that elusive spark without the painful chitchat of numerous bad dates.

It’s a lot like speed dating with one catch – no talking is allowed. People split into pairs and look into each others eyes for three minutes; then switch partners and stare again until everyone has gazed into the eyes of about 10 people. Afterwards, there’s a party where you can talk to the person who caught your eye.

Eye gazing is the brainchild of Michael Ellsberg, who edits book manuscripts and lives in New York. As a single guy, Ellsberg was sick of going out to bars and hearing permutations of the same conversations: Where are you from? What do you do? Do you like New York?

“I thought there has to be a better way to connect with people,” Ellsberg said.

Having studied salsa, Ellsberg knew the power of eye contact to connect with people on the dance floor; he thought it could apply to dating. Eye gazing was born.

Interested in his idea, I recently attended his inaugural eye gazing party. He had invited seven people and asked them to bring friends, bringing the group to about 30 singles in their 20s and 30s. Well-dressed young professionals, many who worked in finance, trickled in to a bar on the Lower East Side about an hour before the gazing was to start. Ellsberg wanted people to drink to lower their inhibitions and make staring at each other seem less, well, weird.

For me, mingling at a cocktail party is an uncomfortable experience. So the idea of staring at strangers for 30 minutes terrified me. Ellsberg convinced me that I should give it a shot — nothing could be that bad for a half hour.

Albert Pope, who works for an investment bank in Stamford, Conn., had a much better attitude.

“It’s stretching a little bit socially, but you might meet interesting people,” he said before the gazing started. “It attracts people confident enough to be looked at and look at someone.”

Linda Minami, an administrative partner in a finance firm, was a little nervous; but she said checking out the crowd beforehand helped.

“I was expecting enormous pools of eyes and to get caught in some Svengali stare,” she said. “But it’ll be completely safe. You’ve got your clothes on and you’re vertical.”

(CBS) As I sat down to hear Ellsberg explain the rules, I got even more nervous. I have a live-in boyfriend, and was about to participate in what he has been calling “Flirt Fest 2005.” Surely, the windows to my soul would be veiled in deception.

“The first 20 to 30 seconds you do this are going to be really weird,” Ellsberg said to the gazers. “It’s going to be one of the weirdest things you have ever done.”

He said most people get uncomfortable when they think of staring because it’s usually accompanied by an aggressive facial expression: someone staring on the subway, or a lusty leer at a bar. He suggested a neutral facial expression; don’t make extra efforts at smiling; focus on one eye at a time to avoid going cross-eyed.

Ellsberg had us ease in at 10-second intervals. He was right – it was weird. First off, I was stone-cold sober, with inhibitions running on high. The room seemed to get about 20 degrees warmer and I became convinced that I had something hanging from my nose. I realized I wasn’t alone when one woman burst out into laughter.

Women sat on one side of the tables, and the men moved from table to table as each song played, usually salsa or samba.

It got easier after the first few minutes, and with each new gazer. I could begin to focus on each person I was looking at. There are definitely good and bad gazers. Some were very relaxed and just looked in a calm, non-threatening way. Others fidgeted, or put their chin on their fist in a glamour shot pose. The worst was when someone leaned really far over the table — I’d invariably lean as far back in my chair as I could.

One of my partners, Ryan Parks, told me after that I was not very good at gazing.

“You were hard,” he said. “I was asking but not getting any answers. Why are you so sad? I’m thinking maybe you’re not now — because you’re smiling, but I thought I saw a little bit of sadness.”

Parks thought he was going to hate eye gazing, but was pleasantly surprised.

“When people ask us why we like someone we date we say, ‘Oh, they have a cool job or they like to travel.’ But you know what? The people we hate do that stuff too,” he said. “There’s some intangible quality, and maybe this is getting us closer to that, or closer to it sooner.”

Pope thought eye gazing was a “building experience.” After looking at a woman, he thought he saw a cross out of the corner of his eye. Assuming she was a devout Catholic, he thought he’d never be compatible with her.

“It turns out she was a Middle Eastern Jew,” Pope said. “I realized how prejudiced I was. I thought, ‘What am I doing here? All these things I think I want, I don’t even know.’”

Ellsberg was pleased with the first party. And he was right — it did seem to break the ice. Afterwards, people were standing talking, some pairs sitting at tables deeply immersed in conversation.

“It was so satisfying to me,” said Ellsberg, who once planned to turn Eye Gazing Parties into a business. “In some ways, it was so special that I didn’t want to introduce a profit motive towards it because then people come with a different attitude — all the sudden it becomes a business transaction.”

He wants to throw different types of eye gazing parties for older singles, gay and lesbian singles and Jewish singles.

After the gazing, Minami said she could learn a lot about someone just by the way they presented themselves — that she could study character just through the face and body. She didn’t find anyone that she immediately wanted to date — but some people with possible potential.

While Minami thought it was an interesting night and definitely a conversation starter, she’s not sure she’d do it again.

“Well, I guess it’s better than staying home at night,” she said.

As for me? If I didn’t have someone waiting for me to get back from “Flirt Fest 2005,” I would have stuck around longer. The people at the party were adventurous enough to try staring at complete strangers and open enough to try to find in a gaze a flicker of romance. Try finding that at the hundreds of other bars in this city.

 

By Gina Pace
©MMV, CBS Broadcasting Inc. All Rights Reserved.

Eye Gazing Parties in Tim Ferriss’ Eyes

Eye Gazing Parties?! It has become more and more popular.  It shouldn’t be unfamiliar to any of you.

Recently, I’ve found this article by Tim Ferriss who is the author of The 4 Hour Workweek. He attended an eye gazing party in Feb.  Let’s see what he thinks about it.

 

http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog/2008/02/17/dating-without-speaking-the-weird-world-of-eye-gazing-parties/

Dating without Speaking? The Weird World of Eye Gazing Parties

Michael Ellsberg invented a singles event called Eye Gazing, which took off like an addiction in NYC (“NY’s hottest dating trend” according to Elle) and has been featured in media around the world, ranging from CNN to The Guardian and others.

It is similar to speed dating but different in one fundamental respect—no speaking is permitted.

It involves looking into the eyes of each partner for 2-3 minutes at a time. If you go to such an event, as I did for the first time last Tuesday night, it becomes clear how uncomfortable most people are doing this. I don’t think it’s necessarily the best way to meet your match (and it can attract some strange people, especially in SF), but it’s a very telling social experiment.

For the next two days, test gazing into the eyes of others—whether people you pass on the street or conversational partners—until they break contact.

Here are three tips…

1. Focus on one of their eyes, not both, and be sure to blink occasionally so you don’t look like a psychopath or get your ass kicked. It’s not sustained eye contact, it’s too infrequent blinking, that makes people feel uncomfortable.

2. In conversation, focus on maintaining eye contact when you are speaking. It’s easy to do while listening.

3. Practice with people bigger or more confident than yourself. If a passer-by asks you what the hell you’re staring at, just smile and respond: “Sorry about that. I thought you were an old friend of mine.”

I first met Michael through a mutual friend because I was studying Cuban salsa, which Michael teaches, in South America at the time in 2005. It was through salsa that he came up with the idea of taking one of its strongest elements—eye contact—and isolating it.

It is possible to condition yourself to discomfort and overcome it.

Expect some butterflies and sweat with this exercise—that’s the entire point. Practicing uncommon behavioral conditioning on a micro level—maintaining eye contact in this case—has surprising transfer to larger macro-level decisions and behaviors, parallel to the controversial “test driving” of new friends I explored several months ago.

Remember: there is a direct correlation between an increased sphere of comfort—and hence a broader menu of options—and creating an ideal lifestyle.

Get uncomfortable for the next 48 hours and share your experiences, opinions, and suggestions.

What are you looking at?

Posted on February 17th, 2008

the Eyes have it

Have you ever heard of Eye Gazing Parties?

I love parties. I have joined all kinds of parties, but Eye Gazing Parties have always been my favorite. 

In bars or pubs, we always see the singles try to chat up their targets or potential partners. However, how many of them succeed?

At the Eye Gazing Parites, we don’t have to talk, just look at the people into their eyes, spiritually talking to each other – how romantic, my female friends claim. After that, just relax and talk to the ones who caught your eye.

Staring, when you think about it, it may be weird, but it really works. You can feel her soul. Her eyes can tell you a lot. She may be as nervous as you are. She may be wondering; she may be enjoying; she may be a bit lost. You can get to know her even without saying a word.

It’s an experience you have to go through yourself, but I’ll definitely say it’s something everyone must try at least once in their life!

- Tom Dickson (New York)

What are Eye Gazing Parties?

Are you thinking what I was once thinking?  They are just another fancy name of speed dating.  What’s a big deal?  At first, I was just like you, thinking about just talking and drinking and clubbing and stuff like that.  But, in fact, it’s not just that.

I’ve been working in a trading company, doing something importing and exporting.  My life?!  Was extremely boring.  Somehow I wonder if I was workaholic.  Until that day when Angela called.  She’s been single since she last broke up with her very first boyfriend.  They had been together for six years.  Jesus.  Please don’t ask me why they broke up.  Since then, she didn’t have a boyfriend for like 4 or 5 years.  Me?  Well, I guess I did love my job too much – workaholic, you see.  In short, none of them lasted long.  It’s a bit off track now.  All right.  That Monday night, as usual, I was still in my office until 9.  Yup, 9 at night (she was WORKAHOLIC!!!)  She asked me if I could accompany her to a party the next Wednesday night.  Honestly, I didn’t really wanna go coz I never really liked parties.  I was kinda offish, but she is my best friend, and no matter what, I was still single.  Why not give it a try?   So, I went with her. 

I really liked the decor of the club.  It made you feel warm and relaxed.   You don’t need to do much.  Just go get a drink walking around.  People will come and talk to you or you can also just approach anyone (attracts you – yup, girls, you can do it!!!).  I was not very good at talking to stranger, but the host was fun and friendly.  He showed us around at first, and a mini lesson of “eye gazing’ was taught!!!!! (Girls don’t miss it!!!)  It did make you feel more eased and comfortable.  Angela dressed up charmingly in her white and blue one piece, with some make up.  Certainly, guys wanted to stare (eye gaze) at her and talk to her afterwards (instead of me…, but I didn’t give up.  How could I go home with a bare hand?)  I approached some guys whom I believed had caught my eye.  (Yup, I did!!!  I couldn’t believe it too.  I blamed the tequila.  Well, I should say I thanked the tequila.)  We exchanged our phone numbers.  Two of them, we dated and broke up.  Then, I met my boyfriend now in another eye gazing party.  (Before that, I had dated two more guys met at the other eye gazing parties.)  We’ve been together for one and a half years already.

Angela?   On that night, she met her husband.  Yup, they have been married for 3 years.  Their girl is almost one year old.  Sweet!!!

Girls, Eye Gazing Parties are NOT JUST those speed dating parties.  You can learn some tricks, have fun and enjoy yourself at the same time.  Staring may sound a bit rude, but actually you will be more able to get to know the people, even they are strangers to you.  So, girls, be nice to yourself.   Just like me, I never thought that I was fun or anything.  I was just somone who loves their career more than themselves, but now, I won’t.  I love myself more everyday!!!

- Janet Anderson (Manhattan)

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